My Parenting Style …

I don’t know if I am doing things correctly, and if what will be the impact of these in her life. Most of my fellow-moms don’t do the way I take care of Pari and I don’t do the way they ake care of the kids. I am not sure what will be the effect. But this is just a record for you Pari, This is how we both are raising you.

1. When we first came to USA in 2013, the only princess we knew was Cinderella and Snow-white. Once, we went to a nearby dollar store, and got some coloring pages of princesses. There were, I believe 7 of them, And Pari was asking which color to choose for which princess, what’s their name? I really had no clue what to answer her. Then started the process of exploring with the help of story books and movies. And within 2 months, we both got very familiar with all the Disney Princesses Cinderella, Snow white, Belle, Aurora-Sleeping Beauty, Rapunzel, Jasmine, Merida, Tiana. But my fellow moms of girls, they did not know much about the princesses, but the kids knew a lot. I was like, why don’t I say this: Oh, I don’t know all these princesses. Only my kiddo knows about these Disney princesses. I thought, maybe the kids are smart enough to know about these princesses all by themselves.

2. I let her watch toys review on YouTube. She knows ahead of time what are the latest toy craze in town- be it shopkins, my little pony, ever after high or monster high. She has an amazing knowledge.

3. Since she was small like 2-3 years of age, I used to take her to all the shops even for grocery shopping or clothing shopping. I used to make her touch and feel different varieties of fabrics. She knew what to do if she didn’t see us. And then at 5 years of age, she became my perfect partner for shopping. After asking Husband’s review, I only buy those clothes that have been given a green signal by Pari.

4. I had a dream of seeing Pari dancing on stage. And that dream fulfilled on 2014. I loved watching her dance. But somehow, she didn’t continue her dance. I was a bit sad about it, but now seeing her, I feel happy that she loves to dance on “Ladki beautiful kar di chull”, “Tamma Tamma again”. And the way she was so interested in the International Night Dance Practice. Somewhere, a seed was sown.

5. Since her toddler years, I introduced her to the world of art & craft. I used to do a lot of crafts at home with my Pari. And she loved to color with crayons. Around5-6 years of age, she made lots of canvas paintings with her Dad And now at 8 years of age, she still loves to paint.

6. Since Pari was born, I wanted her to be in creative field. I never taught her english not even Maths. And now at 7-8 years of age, she wants to be : An Artist, Singer and Fashion Designer.


Going Shopping with Pari !!!

I was reading this wonderful article written by Priya. It’s really very well written, and says exactly the same thing which I was thinking from past few days. I have never done this intentionally, but this is what I have been doing…especially when we go for shopping.

When go for shopping, I never tell Pari, don’t touch this , don’t touch that. If she wants to look at some items ( which is not with her age, maybe some home decor), I will be with her, and talk about those things and then move on…earlier I avoided her taking to the toy section.. but, now, I allow her to go there & let her explore… and at the end, she is now able to decide well which toy she wants to buy. And, yes, there have been days, when we didn’t buy her anything, and she was happily home.

When we go for shopping for clothes, no toy section, she will have no interest. So, I will still tell her to explore & touch & feel the clothes. Is this soft? or silky? or  look for the patterns, and color: we then have our own discussion about the shades of pink, hot pink, baby pink, lilac, and magenta. When I select jeans for her, she will ask me.. mummy did u check if it’s stretchable. She knows all the patterns and co-ordinates her dresses accordingly. She loves to have polka dots, stripey, and animal prints in her wardrobe collection. She loves to do shopping for me. While writing this, I hope, she develops a good style sense, which her mom is yet to develop.

Ah, Grocery shopping with Pari. The exercise begins at home itself, making the list with her. And in the store, she makes sure, I buy all the things from the list. Plus, the scariest part is: She won’t allow me to buy anything which is not there in the list. I have to take a deviation approval from Papa then. 🙂

Shoes shopping have been so much tiring for me. She loves high heels, and I don’t wear them, but in the store, she will make me to try on all the high heels, until she’s done. For buying her shoes, she loves everything as usual, this time her Dad will let her wear all the shoes and will tell about all the pros and cons of buying and not buying. I hope she is able to take good decisions.

I have given her freedom to decide on lots of things. Yes, there have been some instances, where I have been told that  it was too much to agree on her decision.  Also, there have been times when we have not been in the same side. And, yes, she knows I am her mom.

In nut shell, I love shopping with her, and really enjoy each & every moment.